For all those who are curious as to how I am, I am happy. Not necessarily just happy today, or have been happy for the last few weeks, but overall I am very happy with my life and where it is going. I truly hope this will make those who care about me worry less about my well-being. I am healthy, in love, am loved, and happy.
I am going on Month Four of being married and I must say, it is great! I wish this kind of love, commitment, and happiness to all my friends and family. There is just something so special about being married.
People ask me how is married life and a lot of times immediately after asking (before I can even answer them) they follow up with, "Not much has changed, huh? Still pretty much the same as when you were living together?" My reply is, "No way! Being married is way better!" People on airplanes seem to be way more sympahetic when you ask to switch seats to sit with your husband rather than just your boyfriend. And I think people just treat you more like an adult when you go do business and run errands together.
It's not that we love each other more BECAUSE we are married. In fact, I think we love each other more because it just increases everyday just from being around one another.
Being married gives a pretty powerful statement to the world. In a time when it's so important to keep your personal information private, I think it's funny how we wear a ring signifying to everyone that you've made a lifetime commitment to someone. There's a sense of security when you're married. I mean, I can understand there are exceptions where marriage is a "false" sense of security for some, but I'm talking about real marriage. The one where two people out of their own free will decide to perform a ceremony, whether religious or civil, an intimate or big extravaganza... They're not getting married because their parents said so, or because it's the "right" thing to do because they've been dating for so long, or because they have a child together... Not that there is any wrong with any of those scenarios. I just don't know much about them to talk about it.
I consider myself to be a pretty liberal person with definite left-wing tendencies, but I also feel like I'm a traditional person who has strong family values. It is these values that make me such a strong believer in the institute of marriage.
Dan, when I look at you, I see my best friend. I have been crazy about you since that fateful night on April 28, 2006, when you cracked that joke while dancing next to me in that San Francisco dance club. Who would've guessed that 4.5 years later we'd be standing here in front of our family and close friends affirming our love and commitment to one another.
I vow to be your strength when you feel weak, I vow to make you smile when you feel down. I also vow to laugh at all your jokes, even the bad ones, and to remind you to take your allergy medicine every morning. But most of all, I vow to love you with every fiber of my being, because I know no other way. You are the best thing to has ever happen to me.